Sunday, August 24, 2014

Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do

I have been writing "Cool Things My Friends Do" blog posts for over two years.  It is my favorite part of this blog, and I am always excited to add someone to the growing list (now over 115 posts) of people doing cool things in their personal and professional lives.

In a conversation the other day someone pointed out that I have a lot of friends who are entrepreneurs and solopreneurs.  I guess that is right.  I seem to be surrounded by people who are blazing their own trails and finding success on terms they define.  This is true of friends with traditional jobs, too.  Being entrepreneurial is not about starting and growing companies... it is about an attitude of making things happen and finding better ways to live.  The people I know are not content with the status quo. 

I am going to continue writing about my friends and all the cool things they do.... but soon I will be seeking others to interview (whom I do not know) that are changing the world.  I hope you will enjoy the "Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do".  

Stay tuned!

And if you know an entrepreneur (or a person with a big does of entrepreneurial spirit) who I should interview, let me know.

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

5 Tips for Successfully Attending a High School Reunion


A friend attended his 30th High School Reunion this weekend, and since mine is only a few weeks away this topic has been heavy in my thoughts.  

Reunions bring with them a variety of emotions, and many choose to stay away all together.  It is easiest for many to lump the memories all in the "Crap Pile" and simply not show up.  

There are those who lived through pain in their adolescent years, felt misunderstood, or struggled with identities. Even the kids who seemed to "have it all" were not necessarily happy in their popularity. No matter where or when we grew up, it seems we all went to the same high school of emotional experiences.  The stories I hear from all over line up in more ways than most would ever imagine.

The reunion for my friend was a pleasant experience, but he was taken aback that only 1/4 of his graduating class chose to be present.  Others who came sat with their best friends of thirty years and never spoke to anyone outside of the corner from where they sat to observe.  But then there were the people who came to the party and embraced their past and present. These are the one that created an evening that was memorable.  Some of the most engaged were "outsiders" in while in school, but that night they stood shoulder to shoulder with their classmates... proud in themselves today.


I believe those who stayed away from my friend's reunion, or hid in the corner, missed a great opportunity. 

A reunion does not need to be a re-visit of a past if you choose to see it as an opportunity.  It is an evening that is only a few hours long, and nobody is there to cause harm or shame to others.  He said there was no conversation about career or financial success, but more of a genuine interest in the journey each person had taken.  Some of those journeys were good, others were not-so-good, but they all lead to this one moment in time. For him the evening was a chance to share with a group he shared a unique connection.

A classmate of mine, Dan, posted on Facebook of his struggles 30 years ago, but proclaimed his excitement to fly across the country to be present at our reunion.  Many of his current friends asked why he would care to spend the time and money to go to such an event, when he has grown up and moved on.... but he clearly knows his purpose in wanting to be connected to his high school peers, all who are real people living in the real world.  

In his Facebook post Dan said:
"We're all middle age. We've all had our own burdens. We've all become more mature and wiser. We've all realized what is important. We've put that silliness of young adulthood behind, and realized that we don't have to agree on fashion, politics, religious beliefs, or sexuality to deeply care about each other."
He nailed what many others fail to realize before a reunion.  People do change and grow.  Many discover themselves and are not connected to the actions and beliefs they held in high school.

When seen as a fresh start to network with interesting people, many you will really be meeting meet for the first time (as did we know each other then? Did we know ourselves?), a reunion can become a once in a lifetime (or once a decade) event.  Will there be those who are the same jerks they were decades earlier... YEP.  But they will be the exception, not the rule.

5 Tips for Successfully Attending at a High School Reunion

1.  Expect people to be nice.  You will get from others what you give to them.  Even those who were stuck up or jerks in the past can prove to be the coolest people today.

2.  Do not worry about your weight, the car you drive, the house you live in, your job title, your relationships status, where you went to college (or that you didn't go to college), etc...  The reality is that nobody cares. Come with an attitude to connect and hear about them and you will be pleasantly surprised.

3.  Let go of petty jealousies, rivalries, and attitudes toward individuals.  Do not assume you know how others felt (or feel) about you.  You are not clairvoyant, and often your assessments of their thoughts do not line up with the reality.

4.  Get out of the corner and go talk to people.  Introduce yourself, and if they do not remember you, do not be offended.  It has been a long time and they have had their own "stuff" going on in their life.  Ask question of others about their journey since graduation,  When it is your turn to talk, do not brag or whine.  Just tell them about who you are now.

5.  Have fun.  It is only a few hours, and you may make a connection that could become an important friend for the rest of your life.  

Time has a way of eliminating the importance of who was the cool one, the attractive one, the smart one, the rich one, or the athletic one.  Show up and be the one who cares about the others in the room, and you will find most of your classmates are just like you (they care too, or they would not have shown up).

My friend was happy to have chosen to be at his reunion (as the next one is ten years away) and I am very excited about attending mine.  While some old friends have informed me they are choosing not to be there... I realize that the people who do decide to be present are the ones I am meant to have in my life that night.  

I can't wait to see who is amazing.

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Monday, August 18, 2014

Podcast Movement 2014



The Podcast Movement 2014 conference was held this weekend in Dallas, TX.  Nearly 700 people attended this first-annual event, and I was there to learn more about this growing medium and decide if I am ready to launch my own podcast.  I am an avid listener of several podcasts on a variety of topics.  Over the past few months I have been exploring a concept that I believe will be fun, bring educational value, and allow me to share the cool things that people do to impact the world.

It was impressive how well the event was curated.  The organizers brought together many of the podcasting super-successful, but also a lot of interesting people who are seeking new ways to share information.  I definitely received more than I expected from my attendance and found the perfect accountability partner in a smart guy who is also seeking to launch a new podcast this fall. (Plus, Sara and the kids came along and had a few last minute vacation days before the school year starts up next week).

While at the event I also had the chance to meet some other solopreneurs (many who are podcasters) who are active in the Solopreneur Hour community.  The SoloHour is one of the fastest growing business podcasts, and host Michael O'Neal held several meet-ups for people who are part of his online community.  I have come to know many of these very smart and dedicated people virtually, and thus meeting them in person was an added bonus. 

Here are a few links to podcasts from some of my SoloLab friends (pictured above) that you might find interesting:

Solopreneur Hour (Michael O'Neal)

Not Bad For Dad (Scott Webber)

The Life of Now (Greg Barth)

You Leading You (Sean Ackerman)

Untrapped Life (Kristy Bartholomew)

100K Careers Q&A (Lisa Cummings)

OK 2 B LGBT (Molly Richardson and Kim Trumbo)

Ace Productivity (Timothy Moser)

SmartPhones Made Easy (Rey Brown)

There is a lot for me to accomplish to successfully launch my podcast in the next few months, but I am excited about the opportunity.  I hope that those who read this on my blog will stay tuned and be the first people to listen once it becomes real.

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Cool Things My Friends Do (Week #115) - "Making Rain with Events" by Scott Ingram

Each week on this blog I enjoy highlighting some of the cool things my friends do in their personal and professional lives.


As a huge believer in the power of live events, I am excited about my friend Scott Ingram's new book "Making Rain with Events: Engage Your Tribe, Create Raving Fans and Deliver Bottom Line Results with Event Marketing" (Now available on Amazon.com).

I have known Scott Ingram since the early days on my journey as a speaker, and he has been one of those special friends who always believed in my efforts.  Scott was the founder of "NetworkInAustin" and is a successful salesperson in the technology industry (in addition to his more important role as a husband and the father of two daughters).

The completion of this book is the fulfillment of a long-term goal for Scott, and it was exciting to be part of the project (I am the author of a Chapter 5: "Setting The Tone For Connecting").  He has complied some great information from a variety of experts in sales, marketing, and the meetings industry and this book is a "MUST READ" for all event professionals.

It is with great excitement that I tell you about this book as week #115 of "Cool Things My Friends Do".  I suggest you order your copy today and dive into the content.

Joe Pulizzi, Founder of the Content Marketing Institute and Content Marketing World says: “Every marketing executive who invests in events as part of their marketing mix should do themselves a favor and read this book.” .... and he is right!!!

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Still Learning

Hollywood paints a negative picture of college fraternities and sororities, and while I admit there are problems that occur in the Greek Systems around the country, there is more good than bad happening on college campuses in 2014.  My own life experience shows the positive influence a fraternity can have someone, and recently I got to talk with many college students who are currently seeing their lives impacted by association.

I had the honor to be a speaker at the 175th General Convention of Beta Theta Pi.  This good and great fraternity assembled over 1700 people at the site of their founding (Miami University at Oxford, OH) for a three day celebration.

In addition to being a speaker in the convention's educational "Symposium", I am also a Beta.  My chapter at San Diego State University has been closed for over a decade and while I served as a volunteer adviser to the University of Texas Chapter and as a District Chief in the 1990s, I have had little involvement with the organization in nearly 20 years.  Showing up in Ohio I was not sure what to expect from the experience.

Over the decades the fraternity has recommitted itself to developing "Men of Principle" and the focus on education of the mind and character was very clear in all that the organization does to enhance the college experience (and beyond).

In addition to these college undergraduate leaders, there were many successful Beta alumni from all walks of life, including Senator Dick Lugar of Indiana (who has been volunteering to help lead the charge for leadership development training for many years).  It was fun to see some old friends, and business/industry legends convene with the students in Oxford for the largest gathering of Betas in history.  I was in college when I attended the 150th Convention in 1989, and was taken by how quickly time flies (and how this time I was part of the educational program). 

Much has changed in me and the fraternity over the years.  But much has also stayed the same.  It was comfortable being in the midst of people who share this bond in the fraternity.

I was reminded of why I joined Beta Theta Pi, and how my small band of brothers at SDSU in the 1980s had a positive impact on my life. In many ways I am the person I am today because of these people and the experiences we shared.  They are forever important.

Fresh concepts and perspectives were also part of the few days in Oxford.  I am not to old to gain new knowledge and points of view and enjoy being made to re-think ideas. I had one conversation in particular that changed how I looked at an issue in the organization that bothered me.  The person I talked with had no idea how his observations would transform my understanding.  Boom... no matter what the topic, there is always new things to learn.

In addition to speaking I attended several of the other educational sessions and had thought provoking conversations with interesting minds who like to think (and challenge others to think). I am still learning, and continue to believe it is the people we encounter who can change our trajectory.

Congrats to the fraternity on 175 years.  Maybe I will go back to the 200th convention (as I will only be 73 at that time!).

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Wednesday, August 06, 2014

New Business Networking Radio hosted by Dave Delaney


I am honored to be a guest on Dave Delaney's New Business Networking Radio (Episode #23). 


What podcasts do you listen to?  Podcasts have become my favorite listening for long drives and on the treadmill at the gym.  Dave Delaney's NBN Radio is a great one to add to your iTunes or Stitcher.  He has many guests who will help you discover new ways make the connections that will lead to better opportunities.

Please take a moment to listen to this podcast and leave a comment on Dave's website (and a review on iTunes or Stitcher, too),  Dave's doing a great job with this podcast....  spread the love.

Join the NBN Club today.
Listen to episode 23 in iTunes or Stitcher.
Have A Great Day

thom singer




Monday, August 04, 2014

Forming A Mastermind Group: Cavett Robert was Right - We Can Build A Bigger Pie!

Cavett Robert (1907-1997), Founder of the National Speakers Association, was right- we can grow a "Bigger Pie".

Mr. Robert was famous for encouraging speakers to help each other and not view all who speak on the platform as a competitor. He worked to inspire more people to join our profession and to get those who organize meetings to see the value in hiring speakers with professional experience. His efforts established credibility of those who make a commitment to the industry. Cavett made an impact on the lives of so many (both speakers and those who were in his audiences). Instead of competing he advised speakers: "Don't worry about how we divide up the pie, there is enough for everybody. Let's just build a bigger pie!”

Enough other people in the world will judge, assume, undermine, second-guess, naysay, and halt the efforts of speakers... we do not need to do that to each other!!!


The speaking business can be confusing, fragmented and lonely.  Few people understand what it means to be a speaker.  Most outsiders assume that the presentations they have witnessed are the whole example of what it is to be a "speaker".  Their experience includes celebrities, business owners, consultants, trainers, athletes, authors, etc...  However, there are several different business models, levels of experience, degrees of notoriety, and motivations behind those who take the stage.  It is not a single "thing" to be a speaker.  The confusion about this business extends to those who speak, which is why the National Speakers Association has been so important to the advancement of my career.

Beyond joining industry groups, I also have a small group of speakers who make up my "Mastermind Group".  We all originally met through NSA and have taken our affiliation and networking to the next level with the creation of this private group.  Together we have created a "Board of Advisers" for each of our businesses.  Over time we are learning to know the nuances of each person's topics, audiences, future goals, strengths, and weaknesses.  We are all committed to finding joy in the success of any member of our group.  Nobody is seen as competition, although some of our areas overlap, but instead we are a team blazing down the field together.  We are building a bigger pie.

This advice of working to boost peers is not only for speakers.  Anyone can benefit from creating a "Mastermind Group" and working together with others to find ways to allow everyone to grow their business.  In my work as "The Conference Catalyst" at corporate and association events I have began adding educational breakout sessions on this topic.  I encourage participants in my workshops to seek like minded people (at the event and back home) with whom they can grow an ongoing group of peers who will encourage, support, and assist each other in the journey to finding more opportunities.  I call these "Catalyst Clubs", and anyone can create one.  

Although Napoleon Hill introduced the "Mastermind" concept over 75 years ago in his book "Think and Grow Rich", few people have an understanding of what this really means to their future success if they participate in this sort of group.  Many of the meeting organizers I talk with like the mix of an old concept (Benjamin Franklin had a peer group called Junto) that can suddenly be "new" and "fresh".... Especially when it can have a lasting impact on their conference attendees.  Plus, when associations promote this type of engagement it helps add a value benefit to the cost of membership! (my group is 100% dedicated to our NSA family).

This concept is popular with CEO's and Entrepreneurs, who often participate in organizations such as EO, Young President's Organization (YPO), Vistage, etc....  Those who are active in these groups often attribute their success to the advice, counsel, and friendships they have gained from being engaged over time with a trusted group of peers.  This same value is open to people with any job title inside all types of businesses (and creating your own group is free!).

In our busy "social media crazy world" it is simple to get lost in the constant chase of promoting our own efforts.  But when we add to the succeeds of others, we get more satisfaction (and more opportunities) in our own career.  

What are you doing to grow the pie in your world, and allowing more people can have a slice?

Have A Great Day.

Thom Singer


Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Cool Things My Friends Do (Week #114) - Ann Fry and Senior Flat Mates on CBS Morning News

Each week on this blog I enjoy highlighting some of the cool things my friends do in their personal and professional lives.

My friend Ann Fry, and her roommate Dina Wilcox, were featured on the CBS Morning News this week.  Ann and Dina share an apartment in New York City, and are part of a growing trend of seniors who share living expenses (but don't call the Boomer Roomies!).  They even have a blog called Senior Flat Mates that chronicles their lives and provides advice to other seniors who seek to live with roommates.



Ann met Dina a few years ago after moving to New York from Austin, TX.  I know Ann from the professional speaker community in Austin, I had breakfast with her on a visit to NYC last year.  She told me all about how they came to sharing an apartment and the wonderful friendship that has grown over the past few years.  

The situation provides a more affordable living situation, companionship, and someone to make sure all is okay on a daily basis (when you get older, living alone can mean other challenges, and having someone nearby brings peace of mind).  

Rent in places like New York (and other cities) has become very expensive.  The single "20-Somethings" share apartments to afford living in the city, it only makes sense that the single "60-Somethings" could do the same thing.  

The duo are in the process of writing a book and hosting seminars to help others create great life with roommates.  The idea is not different from the old TV shows "The Odd Couple" or "The Golden Girls", and I applaud Ann and Dina for their efforts to educate others on how to make it work.  Happy to feature them as week #114 of "Cool Things My Friends Do".

Have A Great Day

thom singer

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Got Mojo? - Dawnna St. Louis Guest Blog

Dawnna St. Louis is an expert in Mojo.  She knows has a way with explaining what business people need to succeed and has a unique understanding of harnessing Mojo.  

Dawnna has developed a system based on the science of confidence, the psychology of influence, and blended it with your personal business experience.  If you have ever wondered why some people can increase sales through networking, why some teams have a competitive advantage, or why some leaders can motivate masses to follow a vision.... the Mojo system outlines your personal competitive advantage.

Her guest blog about how Apple got it's Mojo right walks is below. Check our more of her writing at the Get Mojo Blog.

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Executives usually don’t suffer from a lack of confidence or influence. In fact they usually have both in aces and spades, but sometimes they will admit to suffering from some misplaced Mojo.
Misplaced Mojo can cause even the greatest executives look as if they are doing a poor job. Tim Cook ran into some serious Mojo misplacement issues over the past two years; and who can blame him. There are seven different Mojo Superpowers: SuperStar, Thought Leader, Magnate, Champion, Authority, Networker, and Secret Agent; so figuring out how to wield your superpower can be tricky at best.
As it turns out, Cook’s Mojo Superpower is Authority which means that he has deep passionate knowledge in a specific area and knows how to execute it like a Jedi master. Regardless of who you ask about the “running” of Apple they will all agree that Cook does an amazing job of visioning, strategizing, and leading Apple into the future – basically the things that a great CEO of a major organization should have on their resume.
Where things get a little wonky is when Cook tried on the Steve Jobs superhero outfit. He tried everything from being on the same platform with Jobs to wearing matching outfits to imitating Jobs’ Mojo style. Well, it didn’t work and it was ugly. It was like he was dancing to the syllables of a song with two left feet while singing off key with a swollen tongue. Everything everywhere just looked and sounded wrong.
Some people blame Cook’s failure on the Jobs’ specter haunting every presentation by setting a bar so high that only a champion could reach it. And in a way… the people were right.
Steve Jobs had Champion Mojo. Champions are pulpit masters that have a quasi-religious hold on their followers; followers who gladly dig deeper, pay more, and bring more followers into the flock.
So what is Cook to do? After all, you can’t just wake up one morning and be podium prowling pontificator with major pull; either you are born with that kind of Mojo or you are not.
The answer is simple. Just like Jobs’ needed a side-kick with Authority Mojo, which he found in Cook; Cook’s needs a side-kick with some Champion Mojo. And that is where Craig Federighi comes in.
The man might as well don a cape because he has some real Champion Mojo.
Champions, like Federighi and Jobs, believe in a product so deeply that they can create an emotional connection between their followers and their belief. At WWDC on June 3rd, Craig showed everyone exactly what his Mojo was made of. We watched brilliance unfold as he made off-the-cuff jokes, sly remarks, and let his belief in Apple’s newest and shiniest innovation be known; a belief that his followers will soon believe, too. He was transparent, authentic, passionate and exactly what Cook needed to create magic for Apple.
Cook’s brilliant move to fill in the Mojo gap on his team really paid off. Suddenly the internet world went ablaze asking the question – “Is this the next Steve Jobs?” While Federighi is not the next Steve Jobs, he doesn’t need to be. He knows how to wield his Mojo Superpower to bring followers into the flock and punch up profits.
Like most Mojo Champions, Federighi believes in this new brand of Apple Kool-Aid and his followers will be looking to take a hearty sip.

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Dawnna St Louis is the world’s expert on Mojo: Your Unique Power to Magnetize, Captivate, and Influence. She works with leaders and their organizations to help individuals and teams tap into their perfect brand of Mojo to conquer challenges with confidence, build strong team alliances, and excel in business as an iconic leader.
What can Mojo do for you? Everything.







Have A Great Day

thom singer